The secret of Great Coaching - Coaching Process/ Coaching Model

Summarising the last Course

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Think about the purpose of coaching?
The outcome we want is for the person to come up with the solution themselves?

What if the person you are coaching just doesn' get it? And won't? Is that where the mentoring comes in?

What are the fundamental skills we need to coach?

• active listening - body language 
• wait time.
• Asking powerful questions to clarify or provoke new thoughts.
• Gaining clarity (paraphrasing/questioning)

Our questioning is about them being clear about how they are going to critically think about themselves, their impact on things, it's about them. Our questions are to get them to reflect on this.

Questioning will come, try and move away from the perfect question.

Best thing to do is wait time.

Be aware of facial expressions as well

Be prepared to be vulnerable.

Coaching Process

Should I be coaching them?

Refer to coaching Quadrant

Purpose

What it looks like?

Courageous conversations? Open to learning conversation? This is difficult feedback. Often we can skip these sorts of conversations. The problem can be glossed over therefore 

Then need to follow up make a time to meet that suits both.

Coaching Models

Most models have lots in common. 

IGROWS

Good questions in folder 

We can get bogged down in the story - as a coach don't buy in. What are you going to do about it? So what?

Need them to look at what they need to be doing to get out of it. Help them put things in place that help them. As some things can't be solved and need to be navigated around and them making the best of things.

Some issues are too big to be coached around as outside my circle of influence so maybe not the coachable thing.

A Good coach gets them to look at themselves.

Good start to a coaching session

What do you want to achieve from this session as we have X amount of time?

Use the person's language as well

Good Goal Langauge

Need to be able to visualize their goal

By the end ......... I have..........so that...

the ...so that.... is an emotional attachment, to establish accountability 

Important for coachee  to write their goal and as the coach also write down the goal

Options Stage

The more I can get my team to come up with their own ideas the more buy-in from them

Homework 8.6.2018

Reflect on the IGROWS model
What am I doing well?
What do I need to focus on more? Which is an area I need to develop?

Have a coaching session on how am I actually going to grow this? Be the coach and coachee.

Coach practicing what you want to work on and be coached about how you can do this.

This needs to  be videoed. Probably a short session